Keeping your goals – when the goal becomes to keep trying.

A photo of an old typewriter with the word Goals typed on a white piece of paper.
A photo of an old typewriter with the word Goals typed on a white piece of paper. Photo credit: the Interior News, Bakker says that up to 80% of people lose their motivation by mid-February. If your reading this in another season, just add about 5-7 weeks the date of the goal that you set.

Say you want to lose 10 lbs but end up gaining 2 the next time you weigh yourself. You think that it may be the water your drinking, or muscle gain, or the bag of chips you ate while you watched a movie over the weekend. You may find yourself going to all or nothing thinking, and then find your self talk becomes negative. You may find yourself thinking thoughts that unmotivated you.

Learning how to turn thoughts around takes some time but just knowing how easy it is for anyone to become discouraged and quit is a gentle reminder of our humanness. Sometimes the harder goal is to keep the goal and keep working towards it. Let’s look at some ways that you can keep your goal and be in the 20% that make it into March (or complete your goal!).

The Basics

If you have lived a life with challenges the basics of achieving wellbeing may be challenging. Some important key ones are sleep, nutrition, a clear vision, action, and self-care. It sounds simple but for those of us that are parents, sleepless nights, forgotten meals, and other demands can take the place of self-care, sleep, and nutrition. If you struggle with sleepless nights, getting through the day can be really tough. Be gentle with yourself, and read ahead for some ideas to help you stick it out.

Follow the steps and repeat if needed.

So what happens if you find yourself off the path? Here are a few ideas that may help you get back on.

  1. Check in that you still want to achieve that goal. If your goal was to lose 10 lbs do you still want that, or do you want to eat healthier, or meal plan for a week in advance?
  2. Once you have your goal, decide how you will measure. Remember that 10 lbs? Could you have gained muscle, or if you are drinking enough water will that impact the measurement. Will you use a scale, a measuring tape, the way your clothing fits, to check your results?
  3. Seek mentorship and accountability. Full disclaimer, I help people to be accountable as a life coach but there are many others ways to do this. Mentorship can come from many places as well. Here are a few ideas for both that can get you going in the right direction:
    • 1. Find a video online with someone that has done what you want to do,
    • 2. Join a community group with others that are working on a similar goal,
    • 3. Volunteer to help someone that needs help to achieve a similar goas,
    • 4. Find a peer in the community or online that will meet with you weekly and share your progress and set backs. You will hold each other accountable,
    • 5. Journal you progress and set backs from home and over time you will see patterns that help you get back on track.

Trauma Informed

If you lacked having the support you needed early in life, you may find it hard to reach out for help. The people around you may not have spoken kindly or supportive and you may find your own internal voice still treats you the same way. It is never too late to find self compassion and to take small steps to ask for support and find it. Look for people that have made the goal that you are reaching for, or are even 1/2 way, and observe the way they talk to others.


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